tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-158660810933866252.post344813010981541637..comments2023-03-27T05:39:54.073-04:00Comments on Fact, Fats, & Fries: Is it Envy???MissXhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17438592430763366236noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-158660810933866252.post-18767677094067526262010-01-07T15:04:52.045-05:002010-01-07T15:04:52.045-05:00Soror!!!! That couldnt have been said better than ...Soror!!!! That couldnt have been said better than that. That's why I love ur comments!!!!MissXhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17438592430763366236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-158660810933866252.post-5129435738288056902010-01-05T14:38:08.751-05:002010-01-05T14:38:08.751-05:00Hello my lovely Soror! I am late on this but I hav...Hello my lovely Soror! I am late on this but I have to comment.<br /><br />I completely agree with you! I think it's amazing the staggering number of people who are now marrying in their 20s. If I had a damn nickel for every "engaged" status I've seen on FB...<br /><br />Anyways, people always try to chalk marraige up to "it's spiritual" bs, but don't have their weddings in a church. Um, NO. Historically marraige was created as a legal contract stating, "what's mine is yours and what's yours is mine." for the man to own his wife and consolidate his property with her family's property. But somewhere along the line, it started becoming "IN" to just get married willy-nilly. I tell everyone, at 22 or even 25 for that matter, your marraige is less likely to work for a few reasons. And you are completely right about divorce not being taboo, people expect instant gratification and when they don't like something can just change it. Perhaps if divorce became MORE expensive, then it wouldn't be as cool to divorce and jump into a new marraige before the ink dries on the divorce settlement.<br /><br />1. You don't have any responsibility, so it's easy to be "in love" with no accountability outside of each other.<br />2. The person you are 25 is not who exactly who you will be at 35. Meaning, you should have bought a house, have better credit, a different outlook on life as someone who isn't just emerging into the real world post-undergrad or moving out of mom's house, but someone who has already come into your own, otherwise known as maturity.<br /><br />In additon to black women and our hair, many women are caught up in hair woes because of the history in our country. I think we do put too much emphaisis on hair AND cosmetics. Black women make up the majority of purchasers in both industries and these are BILLION dollar industries, of which we are barely recognized. Cover Girl didn't even have make-up hues for darker skinned women until 2007 when they launched the Queen line. L'Oreal, Revlon, and big ballin Estee Lauder STILL don't observe the demographic that purchases their product most. But we still keep buying. Perhaps if our community stops looking for validation and approval from others (because that's what this is) then maybe, we stand a chance at claiming and reclaiming some control over these things and make it work to our advantages. We have crumbling schools, neighborhoods in peril, etc. Maybe if we had control we would filter some of the money we spend on this BS into the our communities to solve the problems.<br /><br />Ok done ranting. Love ya sis!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-158660810933866252.post-89154305194943015202009-12-18T10:41:09.080-05:002009-12-18T10:41:09.080-05:00Hey Tilda,
Thank you for the compliments as well ...Hey Tilda,<br /><br />Thank you for the compliments as well as the insight.<br /><br />I hope you didn't choke on your cereal. LOL!<br /><br />Yeah, hair is an obsession in the states.<br /><br />It's redonk the lengths that women and even men sometimes go to have the perfect do.MissXhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17438592430763366236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-158660810933866252.post-5998495984987356302009-12-17T11:11:00.545-05:002009-12-17T11:11:00.545-05:00btw.. random but whilst agreeing with some of your...btw.. random but whilst agreeing with some of your comments esp re solange hair etc.. i cant help but think its an african american thing.. im black, british and im living / working in nyc for a few months, and ive never ever had so much attention paid to my hair in my life, by dudes checking it, to girls etc.. back home they love natural hair, in all shapes and forms, braids twists etc.. and a weave, well its a style, as caucasian girls alter their hair constantly.. its not an inbred thing, i basically have never until now felt my hair was something i had to have strong opinions about... <br /><br />i will look into it before i say more, as i dont want to comment ignorantly, im not african american after all, and wont want to offend.. however, have you ever talked to black girls around the world, in europe perhaps? there is no hair obsession.. but here, so many forums, magazines, tv shows.. tyra? what the hell is it? natural is awesome my boyfriend loves my hair because it is as different from his as it could be, being that as a black girl i am different.. my sister is 24 inch extension queen, but its part of her crazy look at me personality.. but i have never thought about all of this until now. <br />weird. <br /><br />xtildahttp://styledecoded.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-158660810933866252.post-75926617753396440712009-12-17T11:04:28.853-05:002009-12-17T11:04:28.853-05:00i stumbled across your blog.. sorry ive been readi...i stumbled across your blog.. sorry ive been reading randoms from the arhives and stopping half way through my cereal to say i think i love you! and im a girl who's soo not gay . ha. one more reader you got. xtildahttp://styledecoded.comnoreply@blogger.com