This past Saturday night, I had an interesting conversation with some of the ladies that I work with. The night was winding down and we had some free time on our hands and the topic of tolerating a relationship came up.
Lil' Wayne said it best in 'Comfortable'
yeah to the left to the left
if you wanna leave be my guest, you can step...
Why do women, and even some men, get into a relationship and get too comfortable?
Lets set it,
5 months in....
even a year....if you're lucky....
or POSSIBLY 3 years...
Why oh why, do you feel the need to accept months, years or an eternity of mediocrity.
If your a$$ ain't happy in a relationship, save yourself the trouble and headache and just step.
I'm no fool, relationships take work and love is not enough.
However, you shouldn't have to settle for less than your standards because you've been together for some time now.
Treat all relationship like investments. When that $hit starts losing stock value, SELL!!!! Don't just sit on worthless stock. You're just losing your money.
If you like giving money away that easily, maybe you should consider donating it to a charity. I mean, at least you're gonna get a fatter tax return check.
Great post. I touched on this subject last week in my blog. http://mssultryvixen.blogspot.com/2009/01/listen-if-he-dont-love-you-by-now-he.html
ReplyDeleteMost relationships fail because the "love tank" is not being filled anymore (if it was being filled at all). Most people express love to their partners in the way they'd want love expressed to them. Not everyone has the same wants and needs. The best way to fill your spouse's love tank is to express love in their love language. Each of us has a primary love language - words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service, physical touch. So often couples love one another but they aren't connecting.
Then you have the people who stay in relationships because they're just too lazy to get out and meet someone new - put in the time and effort to get to know them etc...